It’s a Secret

“And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”
–Genesis 1:26-27

“And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
–Genesis 2:21-24

I think most of us are familiar with the passages above. It is how we were created. Notice the clear distinction between man and woman? It was deliberate. It is apparent that we are to take these passages and see the obvious differences between men and women. We are not the same, and there is good reason for it. Whether we like it or not, God created men and women for different purposes. We each have our roles on this earth.

No my blog is not about homosexuality. It is not about women’s liberation, or the other controversies you typically hear about in today’s society attributed to men and women’s roles. I do realize that this post may be about those subjects in an indirect way, but it is not my intention to discuss those topics here. I get that in today’s society, women work outside of the home, and some men stay at home with the kids. I get that we have a society today that is much different than the ones depicted in the Bible. Instead, my blog post today is about an article I read that has me a little – well – upset.

There are two parents that have decided to raise their 4 month old child without a gender.


Yes I said that right. You can read the article here. The Stockers have decided that the constraints of gender in our society is something they don’t want to expose to their young son or daughter. Here are some of the quotes from the parents in the article:

“If you really want to get to know someone, you don’t ask what’s between their legs…”

“We’ve decided not to share Storm’s sex for now — a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a stand up to what the world could become in Storm’s lifetime (a more progressive place? …).”

“What we noticed is that parents make so many choices for their children. It’s obnoxious”

“In fact, in not telling the gender of my precious baby, I am saying to the world, ‘Please can you just let Storm discover for him/herself what s (he) wants to be?!.”

You ever read an article on the web, and have the hairs on the back of your neck stand up? This one did it for me. Gender is such a basic part of who we are. How could these parents possibly make the decision to deny this to their child? Listen I get that gender is a hot topic in our society. But gender is not something that is to be decided. It has already been decided. Gender is not a choice. Mind you, I am not talking about sexual orientation, but rather gender.

What is “between your legs” is God given, whether you like it or not. By not teaching their children properly with regard to gender, they are not giving them freedom of choice, they are stifling their growth as human beings. I wonder, if when crossing the street for the first time, they will attempt to hold their child’s hand, or simply let them make their own decision as to when to cross? I mean, if you want them to have freedom of choice…

Children are not to be used as social experiments. Parents have a responsibility given to us by God to raise our children correctly, and part of that is showing them what it is to be a man or a woman. Denying gender is a lie you are telling to your children, for your selfish reasons, and based on your own hangups and baggage. I pray that these parents will come to their senses and choose not to cripple their children by resisting the God given, wonderful differences between man and woman. They were given to us for a reason, and we should embrace them, not hide them in the interest of pleasing a sector of society, that in many ways is broken, and in need of repair.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
–Proverbs 22:6

Again, my intention by this blog post is not to cause controversy or stir up issues with regard to the battle of the sexes, or homosexuality. It is simply a recognition of what we have learned from the Bible about how men and women were created, and the natural differences between us.

Christians, let’s learn from these misguided parents, and be ever mindful of how we train our children. They really our the future of this world. Don’t succumb to the pressures of this fallen world and resist the God given gender differences we have been given. Your child will have plenty of time in his or her life to make the tough decisions on their role in society. Don’t make it more difficult for them by confusing them. Man was made for a reason. Woman was made for a reason. Embrace the differences, because they came from a God who loves us, and He wants men and women to complement each other and help each through through this momentary blip of time we call life.


2 thoughts on “It’s a Secret

  1. It’s true, we do need to raise a child in the way he should go, and he probably should have his gender exposed, if plausible.

    (I can see reasons why the parents might want to keep this a secret. I’ve heard heard way to many horror stories of children being born bi , and and parents – who are desperate to fit the norm – will ask the doctor to clip something. It’s only later that the child and parents realize that they’ve made a wrong choice, when his/her sexual preferences are facing the wrong way. That, I can see. Unfortunately its true. There are many ways for a person to be born bisexual, and it’s not always the “obvious” – Wiki it.)

    “Sex” involves physical properties.

    “Gender” is defined as the roles we give to men and women.

    “sex is not the problem were dealing with: it’s gender roles.

    For thousands of years, women were workers in the home.

    Wealth changes roles.

    I’m against homosexuality. If we can ask an offender to go to jail for promiscuity, we can expect celibacy from anyone if he feels strongly enough about it.

    What really troubles me is when a sensitive, gentle boy who plays the violin cooks, has to wonder if he’s gay – because kids bully him about it. Entertaining thoughts do not help.

    Tell me, why did Jacob from the Bible father kids?

    The devil has made this a toxic world to live in. Ideologically…


    • Thanks for your input. This is not an easy topic. However, I do believe what should NOT happen, is we should not confuse our children, which is what I believe is happening to the kids in this story.


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